Hey girls. I have a big problem. I just got married four days ago. But I realize I dont love him. I still love my X and he said to me that he loves me to. My X is also married but said he will divorce her to come back with me. We had a three year relationship. And been seperated for almost four years. We have no kids. He is 27 and I'm 21. My husband is such a nice guy I dont want to hurt him. My X is married to a stripper. What you'll I do.
Man.... This sounds familiar. Let me tell you that I got married on 7/2 it was a spur of the moment kind of thing, we went to Vegas. I had been with my new husband for almost 3 years now. I am 29 and previously married then divorced, I have two children. I also felt I had strong feelings for my ex-husband, I think these feelings stem from the fact that our relationship never was what I wanted it to be. You see, he drank too much and often abused me physically and verbally and emotionally. Let me tell you that the emotional scars are worse than physical ones. I was confused and still am a bit, I feel that I love my ex, but yet my new husband is wonderful to me and my children. This is the kind of relationship I would have wanted to have with my ex-husband but it never worked. You can't wait forever for a person to change. I'm not sure what happened between you and your ex and why you're not together????? The only piece of advice I can give you is go talk to someone, I am now talking with a therapist so that I can find out why I feel this way. It is helping me greatly! More than anything you need to respect your new husband, if you don't love him don't stay with him! Especially since there's no kids involved! Believe me the kids suffer when a divorce happens. Have you talked to your husband about your feelings? If you want to talk more, e-mail me at ldiego@transfirst.com. Bye for now.
