Hello, I just got proposed to on Friday (Nov. 2) and said yes. I have always been a bit scared of getting married, but I have found the perfect guy and know that I want to spend the rest of my life with him. We have known each other for five years, been a couple for a little over a year, and been living together for about six months now.
My first question is, how unproper is it to not have bachelor/bachelorette parties? And how do you politely, but sternly make that known? We have both agreed wholeheartedly that we do not want them. We are actually saving ourselves for each other (including nudity/seeing nudity). I have also heard that a lot of people never make it to their wedding because of arguments after the parties that can leave emotional scars. To me, a bachelor or bachelorette party is like Temptation Island. Why risk it? I am very trusting of my guy and am not worried about him cheating or anything, but do I really want him to remember his last single night as "one of the best nights of his life". Is that not what a marriage is for? I do not want him to associate being without me with hot naked women. And the same the other way around. I would feel ashamed seeing naked men. I read a post where someone said she kept wondering who was the stripper when her friends took her out. To me, personally, I can not imagine that. Imagining someone other than my guy naked is sad to me. It makes me feel sick inside. There any many other reasons involved, also.
Sorry for posting this twice, but I felt my first subject was not letting everyone answer.
Hi my name is Lisa and i love ur website.I think that parties involving strippers do more harm than good.I have discussed this with my partner and he understands my position on this subject.I can't understand the logic behind men going to strip joints in a lead up 2 their marriage.Why celebrate ur impending marriage by seeing other women naked.I find it very disrepectful and it's very damaging to the relationship.The only person i want to see naked is my boyfriend. Ur website is very inspiring and i'm so glad that there are like minded people out there.I think that any couple with the intention 2 marry should visit your website. Thanks heaps
Melissa,
If you both don't want one, then dont.
We didn't have one either. We decided on a
Jack n Jill party (couples party) instead. Everyone
Wil be partying together and having fun. Our Jack n Jill is a week from today on the 24th of april. If you go with something like the jack n jill party, hopefully you will get help from the ones you love. :o) Good luck in what you do and wedding planning.
